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RIP to the hot girl summer. The soft girl summer has entered the chat.

The soft girl summer has entered the chat and we are HERE FOR IT.

I recently talked a lot about my experience with debilitating stress while navigating a 1.5 year divorce process (see my “heartbreak” highlight for more).

While diving into that subject, I received countless messages from women asking me how to relax.

Many of you, like me, have truly never experienced relaxation and rest.

We feel that our entire value depends on working hard. We are addicted to the feeling of accomplishment, and we feel guilty if we don’t feel like we have “done enough”.

While this isn’t all bad (life requires hard work, we simply couldn’t exist without it), this is no way to live for months or years on end.

I am the *classic* example of not knowing how to relax. I always have to be doing something. I know this behavior is rooted in my childhood, where I was forced to grow up very fast and have a large amount of responsibilities on my shoulders from a young age.

And I know I am not alone in that. Many of you have experienced the same thing, and these behaviors that we’ve picked up in childhood have suck with us. It just is part of us at this point.

However, we also know that disease in the body is rooted in stress. When all we’ve ever known is stress, it’s easy to see why so many of us are struggling with so many things.

I truly believe the answer for most of us is to do less. Relax more. Be okay with just being. God commanded rest just as much as he commanded hard work.

Now that it’s almost summer, this is the perfect season to work on softening.

Sooo.. raw milk cheers to your first soft girl summer 🫶🏼


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